Posted by: Judy | November 5, 2019


The other day, as I wrote in my journal during my daily devotional, I realized I’m not particularly good at offering help. My niece parked her car in front of the house and walked down to the university for a conference. Did I offer to drive her? No. No I did not. I thought about it, four hours later.

On the other side of the coin, I have been known to offer to excess. Yes, that’s a thing. I offer what I don’t have or more than I can afford, from finances to time. I try to do for others what they need to do for themselves.

Both, not offering and offering too much, are learned, which means I can unlearn. It’s a constant battle to listen to God over trying to compensate for my shortcomings.

Flash forward to yesterday. I watched one of the high school guys run to catch the bus. He didn’t make it. I’ve often greeted him in passing, not that we ever exchanged names. I asked him if he was going to be late, and he said that he was. I told him I’d go home and get the car and drive him, but I couldn’t run. I told him that maybe another bus would come along early. He could grab it if it did, but I would try. I walked faster than I have in a long time. I ended up right behind the bus. I hope he made it to school on time.

I can learn, and I can change. Thanks God for giving me the chance.


  1. I know what you mean as sometimes I too hesitate. But I assumed it was because I was an introvert and I shy away from putting myself “out there.” Either way, I am sure I can learn too! Thanks for sharing and always being so honest!

    • I’m also an introvert. I simply want to be more mindful of the needs of others.

  2. Life is messy. Sometimes when we offer help, it’s not needed, or it’s poorly received, or any number of things. But I’m sure you know: it’s vital that we offer it anyway.

    • Truth.

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