I follow Doug Peabody and his “Fit Faithful Thankful” blog on FB.
I love this.
I would add, if you have gained the trust of an abuse survivor, never take the side of the abuser. Ever. If the survivor notes something good, then give your support by affirming the survivor. Many abusers come across as charming and delightful. They will flatter and fawn. It is so easy to believe they’re wonderful people. The moment you empathize with them, the abuse survivor will be betrayed beyond your wildest imaginings. You will have validated the abusers’ treatment and convicted the abuse survivor of all the hateful ugly things the abuser has said or implied. You might as well smack the survivor yourself and be done with it. Trust will be violated. For me, the times this has happened, the broken trust was irreparable. I always wondered if I was believed at all and waited for the next time I would be “corrected” in my thinking, exactly like the abusers did.