Posted by: Judy | April 21, 2014

Dealing with Depression…

Yes, I’m finally willing to admit I’ve been depressed the last few months.

Last week, several things came together, and I think I’m through the worst, this time.

Seth Adam Smith posted the following:

http://sethadamsmith.com/2014/04/14/help-someone-with-depression/

and

http://sethadamsmith.com/2014/04/16/five-ways-to-fight-depression/

Then Invisible Shadow shared Four Paces, asking what am I willing to do:

http://theinvisibleshadow.wordpress.com/2014/04/16/four-paces/

And Joel shared the thought asking what are you willing to give up:

http://impossiblehq.com/give-up

Yes, I noticed how God walked me through what I need to do to wiggle out of the mud puddle I’m stuck in.


Responses

  1. We have a tendency to consider the reality that we are depressed as a failure on our part, which only serves to keep us mired in the muck. Acknowledging depression is a good thing, because you can’t work on alleviating what you don’t recognize, so simply by being able to name it, you are already on the way to finding ways to work through it.

    Our society as a whole, unfortunately, has leaned in the direction of branding any sort of “mental health issue” as an indicator that a person is weak, or broken, or somehow less than “normal”. The truth is that many people suffer in silence. Some don’t survive. We’ve already learned in our surviving abuse journey that silence is the one thing that can keep us trapped in the cycle of abuse; similarly, it can keep us trapped in the pits of depression.

    It’s been my experience that especially when you put your faith in God, depression can be tricky, because it is so easy to tell yourself that if you are suffering from depression, then you are not honoring your faith in God. It ends up sounding something like this: If you had faith, you wouldn’t be depressed, because you would turn it all over to God. This kind of thinking not only keeps you stuck in shame and guilt, but it also fails to recognize the obvious: even Jesus had his moments of despair.

    I’m sorry to hear you are having a difficult time, but I’m encouraged to see that you are finally trusting your own ability to help yourself through it, buoyed by your faith, and by the encouragement of those within your network that can be a voice of acceptance and support. I’m the worst possible person to try to point the way through depression, as I often make missteps and experience setbacks, but at least I can honestly say that today, right now, I’m still here, and that translates to a 100% success rate (as a friend recently pointed out). Thanks, friend. Thanks for reminding me that every day we keep moving forward is a victory. Just keep moving. 🙂

    • As you mentioned, society considers anything not “normal” weak. The sad part is that society is now working to normalize everything so nothing is wrong, which doesn’t change that being depressed isn’t healthy. It’s a better choice than rage, but it isn’t as healthy as choosing to deal with whatever the problem is.

      Yes! If you have enough faith all is well… and it so isn’t. 🙄 My faith keeps me from quitting the whole game completely.

      I’m pretty good at handling difficult situations. I grew up in a difficult situation. It’s when several things tackle me at once I want to throw my hands in the air (which is a really disturbing visual when you think about it) and say, “I quit!” Not an option.

      The funny part is realizing that the physical injuries really are easier than the emotional ones. The physical hurts bring me to tears, from time to time, like this morning, but I recover more quickly. I cried, and now I’m laughing at myself.

      Thanks for your insights and reminders. ((ntexas99))

  2. {{{{{{Judy}}}}}}

    • (((((Pandora Viltis)))))

  3. (((Judy)))

    • (((TR)))

  4. Joel’s article was a different perspective, made me think.

    • I’m not sure I would have gotten as much out of it if I’d read it at a different time.


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