Posted by: Judy | October 25, 2013

Waste of time?

Recently, I read a book I didn’t agree with on several points. I didn’t like their use of a clever lie to convince me of the truth.

First, my abusers used the same tactic to convince me of their “truth.”

Second, if the truth can’t stand on its own, it’s worthless.

The author also speaks of the power of reasoning. I think I’ve mentioned before that reason only works with the reasonable. However, I was willing to let this pass.

I decided I couldn’t let the lie pass.

So, I spent at least an hour writing and revising a note shorter than what I’ve written so far. I wanted it to be to-the-point, honest, and non-inflammatory. When I decided I was happy with it, I asked myself: Should I send it?

I remembered something my younger brother pointed out: You are not the target audience.

I’m not. I already “get” a lot of what the author’s endeavoring to convey.

All that work. Deleted.

I wasted all that time.

A couple hours later, something came to my attention that did affect me and was pertinent to me. I wrote a clear, concise, non-inflammatory (I hope) note and sent it off. I’d already been practicing.

What do you know, God gave me the practice I needed for another task coming. It wasn’t a wasted hour. I simply didn’t have the vision to see the big picture. However, God did.

Follow up: The chapter continued to niggle at me. I agonized over another note. Thanks to FB, I messaged it. I didn’t expect an answer. Within a few hours, I received an email requesting clarification of my position and assuring me my feedback was welcome.

Funnily enough, I had expressed my concern of mistaking his intention and being wrong, and he assured me feelings weren’t wrong. They just were. We messaged back and forth a few times. I understood his perspective. The impression I received in return was he understood mine, but it didn’t change his message. I can live with that. I’ve continued to read his book. We actually share the same views. I still wouldn’t choose to express mine the way he did, but I know it worked for him from his point of view. More importantly, I accepted that his point of view touches a lot of lives for good.


  1. Hi Judy,
    It is funny how that works out; you spend time working on something to see that it prepared us for something else. Terrific you expressed your point of view, I think he learned as much as you did from the interaction.
    xxoo TR

    • Maybe he did. I’m at peace with his book, even as I continue to disagree with some of the things he says. Unexpected outcome.

  2. Everything TR said! πŸ™‚ Definitely not time wasted.

    • πŸ™‚

  3. This sounds like positive progress!

    • Now you mention it, it does.

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