Posted by: Judy | July 2, 2013

Unexpected perspective…

I’m way ahead on creating my posts. This will show up almost two weeks after I’ve written it. I think of something, and I write about it.

Grace Beyond Grace shared a tribute:

As an abuse survivor, I recognize the need to cry and to own my sorrow because I was never allowed to growing up. Growing up, I was forced to stuff all my feelings. I was shamed for being sad. Of course, I was shamed for being anything but perfectly calm and serene.

The old me would have been bothered by the above post.

The new me was able to look at this post in a new light.

The old me would have seen the “don’t cry” directive and not much else.

The new me saw the love and comfort offered and not a demand to not be sad but guidance to appreciate the richness of life and share it.

Instead of brutal denial of tender feelings, instead a rallying cry to rise up and honor a life well lived.

The question for myself: Am I capable of learning how to do this with all the stones placed on my head over the years? Am I capable of shaking them off and learning to celebrate life to the fullest?

Reading the above post I realize how much I don’t know or even understand about truly living.

However, I am going to learn.

God has given me examples to follow.

I will learn.


  1. You have been learning so much, so well…I think the last sentence should say, “I’ve learned a lot, and I’ll keep learning as life goes on.” πŸ™‚

    • Thanks, Mary. πŸ™‚

  2. This is the line that jumped out at me:
    “He would hug me and let me cry for a little bit. He would probably hand me some tissues, wipe the hair out of my eyes and kiss me on the forehead like he always did.” This is what I am learning is crying for a little bit is OK. She pointed out too that using tears as an excuse…we saw plenty of that. I think that became one of my reasons not to cry. I saw people stuck in tears not doing what could be done about a situation. I am learning that a time to cry balanced with a time to do makes all the difference for me.

    • Yes, that wrapped around me, too.

  3. I like how you say you are going to learn, not that you are simply going to try. That’s the right attitude.

    • Thanks Pandora Viltis. I have some awesome examples to follow. πŸ™‚

  4. You are capable, when I read this I see wisdom: “I realize how much I don’t know or even understand about truly living….However, I am going to learn.”

    • Thanks. πŸ™‚ ((TR))

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