Posted by: Judy | August 28, 2012

Chapter 16 review…

Honor and respect are becoming increasingly valuable in my toolkit. I like them. I’ve found it interesting that as I settle into my new career I’m far more comfortable with myself. I reflect on the interview questions I answered for Risky Regencies, and every single one was as honest as I knew how to make it. A few of them I thought through very carefully and made minor changes, tightening, but I don’t re-read them and think, “Why did I say that?” I didn’t try to overly sensory myself or worry about what others thought when they’d read it. I was more worried about being honest, not hiding, not reverting to the old habits of trying to make everyone comfortable at my expense. There were several of those answers I could have fudged and considered it, but this is about who I am now. So, I stuck with the truth and have no regrets.

There is no guilt, for me, associated with using a pen name. I’m not trying to be dishonest or sneaky. Laurel Hawkes is a tribute to Ladyhawk Baggins, my Lord of the Rings persona. She’s the one who screwed her courage to the sticking point and started writing. I’m sometimes still more comfortable if I think in terms of being Laurel, than I am thinking in terms of being Judy. Laurel’s history isn’t nearly as messy as Judy’s is. No, as I’ve mentioned before, I’m not a split personality. I’m very aware of who I am at all times. I think of it like who you are at work is not who you are at home or at church. There are things that crossover, but neither are you who you are at home at work. Hopefully, you’re more formal at work and more casual at home. It’s good and healthy to hug and kiss your children and spouse, not so much your co-workers.

Interestingly enough, I’m more honest now than ever before in my life. I’ve learned the difference between doing an information dump — and learned it is not acceptable, ever — and sharing information that is helpful and adds to a conversation as opposed to smothering a conversation. Even more interesting is realizing these are parts of being honorable and respectful.

I am so grateful this two tools have become vital parts of my toolbox. Thanks, God.


  1. AMEN! Hugs. πŸ™‚

    • ((Ruth)) πŸ™‚

  2. It’s taken me decades to be more comfortable with the “real me”, so I can understand where you’re coming from. And we’re definitely different people from work than from home. Thanking God , all around.

    • πŸ™‚

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