Posted by: Judy | June 9, 2012

No spam so a list…

Okay, so there was a little spam, gibberish, even when I recognized the words.


Not the usual fun Saturday. Sorry. I needed to work through a few things. So, here I am.

I read the blogs of friends who are also abuse survivors and frequently find myself thinking, “Wow. It wasn’t that bad for me. Am I a fraud?”

Every time this happens, someone posts a list.

(This one may be triggering for some.)

This time, it was my sister. 

I read through and recognized myself, to one degree or another, in every instance.


It really was horrible.


  1. I am not an abuse survivor Judy and am terribly sorry for those of you who are.

    • I’m so glad you didn’t have to go through it, Beth.

      I think I’ve finally reached the point in my life where I’m able to be a bit more philosophical about it. Everyone has difficulties in their life. This is mine. Wishing it away will not make it go away. I’m not grateful for it. I am grateful I am rising above it. I’m learning to like who I am and where I’m going. I accept I wouldn’t be on this path, if my beginning had been different.

      I can complain rose bushes have thorns, or I can be grateful thorn bushes have roses. I think I’ve finally pushed through the dirt, and I’m starting to bloom.

      • Beautifully and movingly said. ((Hugs))

  2. I am sorry you felt horrible. Hugs. Sucks to realize how many different ways sexual abuse effects our lives. Wishing I could go walking with you this morning.

    • (((Ruth))) Thanks for calling!! Next best thing. 🙂

      Actually, I needed the reminder. I’ve been feeling so good, I was wondering if maybe I was a bit of a fraud. I read through the list, and thought, “Nope. It really did happen, and it really did set the course of my life. And I’m choosing to use what happened as a stepping stone instead of a stumbling block.”

      Love you!

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