Posted by: Judy | March 26, 2012

Chapter 12…

Humor… yea, I know, interesting that I put it after anger, but I figure it’s sort of the opposite. This is a powerful tool, but it’s also one of the more difficult to master. There’s a difference between learning to laugh at things and making fun of things.

This coming week’s posts are going to seem out of sync with the whole theme of humor, but it’s been a rough week or two, and I’m trying to work through to finding my sense of humor again.

There are movies and books that make me laugh, but if I need something quick, a picture with a funny caption is the fastest way to a chuckle. I know things aren’t going well when I can barely stir up a smile. Right now, all I want to do is crawl into a hole, curl up, and let the storm blow over, partly because I don’t know what the storm is all about. I’m exploring it from different sides and perspectives, and all I’ve figured out is that I’m being beaten up and I don’t know the true source or why.

Those outside of me are no longer allowed to “make me feel bad.” So, why do I feel like I’m being picked on?

It could be something as simple as the change in the weather. And isn’t that a kicker? I have absolutely no control over it, and I’ll feel better as soon as it changes, again.

It might be what I’m reading right now. It’s a tearjerker of a story, and it’s true. Perhaps I’m a little too in tune with the pain of others. Another double-edged sword because I don’t want to pull back to “save” myself. I want to grow stronger.

It might be that the narcissists in my life aren’t behaving in their normal pattern, and I’m wondering when the shoe is going to drop.

It might be that I’m actually making my room a more welcoming place to me, and I’m uncomfortable in it, because I’m not used to it. That calls for another picture I saw on FaceBook:

So, here I am, smiling at the picture, and wondering what comes next. Well, on this blog, I’ll be sharing several of the posts of other bloggers that have made an impression on me, most of them in the last few days. We might be on the humor chapter for a while.


  1. I have found (from the beginning of my most recent hell) that I have an overwhelming desire to drown out the negative influences of my X with positive “anything”… Humor is one of the most difficult to regain, but I’m finding it’s coming naturally, though its taking some time to see. The difference is I’m no longer in that situation for the most part.

    Drowning out the negative is really difficult, only because most of the time I don’t realize the source until it’s firmly planted in my mood, thoughts or what have you. I’m still firmly convinced that it’s the only way.

    Ready for a REALLY stupid joke?? “What’s invisible and smells like carrots??…a Bunny fart…

    Enjoy your day!

    • πŸ˜€

  2. I don’t know if this will come through…I hope so, but if not just click on the link. it’s a fun and adorable video πŸ™‚ Not to worry…no viruses to worry about.

    • The video is adorable, and I love the music! It reminds me of our dog, and cat (both gone for over 20 years now). The first time I saw them play together, I thought for sure the dog was going to kill the cat. They were best buds, and never failed to make me laugh.

      I also checked out, and apparently they are family friendly videos. Very cool. Thanks for sharing it, lifebegins45. πŸ™‚

      • believe me when I say this….It’s MY pleasure πŸ™‚ I’m glad you liked it.

  3. Humor has such an important place in our lives, and yet … well, you know how it goes … when we get stuck in that dark place, it can be damn near impossible for any humor to find a way into our brains. The same thing that might usually have me chuckling out loud will be as flat and humorless as a piece of dry cardboard – the humor hasn’t changed one bit – the only thing that has changed is my ability to appreciate the humor.

    The funny thing is (no pun intended), I’m actually a pretty funny person. Mostly anyone who has ever worked with me would say so, and yet, a big part of that is that I’ve tended to hide behind the humor to disguise my pain. Humor is an all-purpose weapon against depression and pain. It works.

    • Yes, it does! I think what I’m trying to accomplish is making humor my tool to help me, rather than hinder me, i.e., avoiding unpleasant things I need to face or using it to degrade myself. It is a good barometer as to how bad the depression is. When you can’t smile at the antics of a puppy, it’s bad, and making a plan to change is in order. If I’m laughing to the point of hysterics is also a sign of stress for me, so I recognize I need to figure out how to reduce the stress in a healthy way.

      All this stuff “normal” people learning growing up, I’m having to learn late in life. Better late than never, say I.

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