Posted by: Judy | March 5, 2012

Chapter 11

My sister has recently done a series of posts on anger, over at her blog. We Are One. You’ll need to scroll back, a bit, and there are several posts. They’re well worth reading.

I loved how she described anger as an early warning system, a guard dog, of sorts. It makes sense to me that anger lets me know my boundaries have been violated, and I need to do something about it. This life is a learning process. It’s important to never stop learning, and to take the opportunity to learn when it is presented.

Again, anger is a tool. It can be used to the good, or it can be used to the evil. I have had anger used against me as an effective weapon. It works. I’ve used it in the same vein. I’m endeavoring to learn to use it as an effective tool, to strengthen my courage and faith, to rule it, rather than allowing it to rule me.

Like all the tools, anger is a tool that requires practice. There is no “I’ll never be angry again.” I’ve tried it. It doesn’t work. Instead of lying to myself, I admit the truth: I will be angry from time to time, so what do I do to make it work for me instead of destroying me?

Pretending I can make it go away is not effective. It’s lying. I can’t. Pretending I can control it perfectly is also a lie.

The truth: Anger is dangerous and powerful. It is possible for anger to be a gift. It unfreezes me when fear would hold me powerless, but it also eats me up when I don’t know what to do with it. Giving myself permission to feel anger, takes off a lot of wasted effort and pressure in trying to squash it out of existence.

Something to consider: Jesus was angry with the moneychangers who were desecrating the Temple, his Father’s house. He didn’t cut loose. He braided a whip first. If you know anything about whip braiding, it requires a great deal of time and effort. This indicates Jesus considered his actions with precision and care. When He tackled the problem, He didn’t hurt anyone, but He did create a mess. However, the mess He created was only a physical manifestation of the spiritual mess He saw. In creating a mess, there was no temptation for anyone to say, “Oh, we’ll take care of ridding the area of it, tomorrow.” And there was no backpedaling, “It isn’t that bad.” It was that bad, and it all needed to be cleaned up.

Interestingly enough, as I clean up my life, there isn’t as much anger.


Responses

  1. What a terrific post!!!! Wonderful, and all true. I love the idea that He did not hurt anyone, but He certainly made his point by making a huge mess, and thank you for the tremendous insight that the physical mess was a manifestation of the SPIRITUAL mess he saw.

    That belongs in a book!

    I just realized that in case there may be readers here new to Christianity and/or new to the Bible/New Testament, they may want to know which Bible verse the “Jesus in the Temple vs. the moneychangers” section is. I won’t post it, since it feels like overstepping.

    Thanks for the insights into anger, and I know your sister has gleaned tremendous insights on her own journey, as well. Very helpful indeed.

    • John 2:13-16
      Matthew 21:12-13
      Mark 11:15-17
      Luke 19:45-46

      Thanks for reminding me, Mary. You aren’t overstepping.

      Interestingly enough, only John mentions the “scourge of small cords.”

  2. I noticed that the better I am at protecting my boundaries early the less anger I feel too. 🙂

    • Yes, I’m noticing the same thing.


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